5 secrets that will make you even more likable
We know it, there are lots of people who like you and are happy to have you in their lives. Whether it takes a while for people to get to know you or you’re like an open book, whether you grown on people or they fall in love with you instantly, there’s always room for improvement, right?
Most of us have various degrees of various types of social anxiety that we’d like to work on. So, we’ve done some research and gathered 5 secrets that will make you even more likable. Check them out!
1. Don’t try to always be right, even if you are
People like smart people. But smart people are especially susceptible to certain social mistakes, like interrupting, discounting other people’s input, or cultivating a know-it-all air. Don’t let your intelligence hold you back socially; be a likable person and spend more time being engaging.
2. Have fun, even at your expense
Being fun is a trait people generally appreciate in others. But situational awareness is the key to knowing how to play it. Be sensitive to what’s going on around you; there will be times your playful side can have free rein, but at others it will be necessary to hold back. The trick will be in knowing when to have fun and when to be serious.
3. Get to know those around you
We all interact with lots of different people every day: work colleagues, neighbors, acquaintances, friends of friends, and many others. But how well do we know them personally? We usually only chit chat about general topics like sports, politics, or the weather. Let’s make a point of actually getting to know them.
Everyone gets more interested in someone who asks them personal questions, in someone who makes an effort to get to know them. This way you’ll even have something to talk about the next time you see them. Be curious about their story and find out what makes them unique.
4. Adopt a positive and praising attitude
People love a positive person. We need someone to lift our spirits, bring some encouragement, and help us see the glass half full. Be that person for those around you! Also, don’t refrain from making compliments. If you notice something you like about someone, tell them. They’ll be happy about it and start liking you even more.
5. Pay attention to your nonverbal communication
Nonverbal communication is essential to defining our personal style. Our facial expressions, tone of voice, and body language define us, even if we may not realize this. While they are usually hard to control and not on purpose, it’s important to notice them and try to correct certain things that may leave a bad impression about us.
For instance, if we frown often or stand with our arms crossed, that may look like we’re unapproachable or in a bad mood. If we avoid eye contact, that may send the message that we are not trustworthy or that we don’t really want to be in that particular conversation. Smiling more often and looking people in the eye will certainly send a better message.